{"id":7694,"date":"2022-11-08T16:37:38","date_gmt":"2022-11-08T16:37:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.junabrookes.co.uk\/staging\/5147\/?p=7694"},"modified":"2023-02-02T11:46:44","modified_gmt":"2023-02-02T11:46:44","slug":"my-grief-feels-unbearable-how-can-i-help-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.junabrookes.co.uk\/staging\/5147\/my-grief-feels-unbearable-how-can-i-help-myself\/","title":{"rendered":"My Grief Feels Unbearable. How Can I Help Myself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Suffering from grief is something that many of us struggle with, and it can often feel like an unbearable experience. Knowing what to do when grief is unbearable, though hard, can help you get through this painful and heartbreaking time \u2013 and there are people by your side who will be able to help with this.<\/p>\n

Today, we\u2019re looking at a few key things you can try to overcome your unbearable grief<\/a>; after all, while it might seem hopeless now, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and with time, you will be able to recover.<\/p>\n

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How Long Does Severe, Unbearable Grief Last?<\/h2>\n

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Have you ever asked, \u201chow long does severe, unbearable grief last?\u201d It\u2019s a common question when you feel like escaping from grief is impossible.<\/p>\n

However, there is no timeline for grief. Some minor grief will only last for a few hours or days. With that being said, unbearable grief is completely normal to last for around a year or longer. We also all experience grief differently; depression<\/a>, guilt, and shame<\/a> are common complications, as is heartbreak<\/a> after the loss of someone close to us.<\/p>\n

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What to do When Grief is Unbearable<\/h2>\n

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If you\u2019ve been struggling with unbearable grief and don\u2019t know how to proceed, you could try numerous different things. One of the most important things to start with, if you feel you need further support, is to reach out to your friendly local counselor for support. From there, continuing bonds grief therapy is one of the most effective recovery options for unbearable grief.<\/p>\n

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What Is The Continuing Bonds Grief Theory?<\/h2>\n

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With the continuing bond theory, grief is handled a little differently than normal. Instead of simply moving on from the bonds you previously shared, the continuing bonds grief theory focuses on modifying your relationship instead in order to accept the loss of a loved one.<\/p>\n

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How to Implement The Continuing Bonds for Unbearable Grief<\/h2>\n

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Continuing bonds<\/a> can be one of the easiest ways to overcome unbearable grief since you\u2019re not trying to move on from your relationship with the individual \u2013 you just change your bond with them. Continuing bonds focus on developing an inner relationship<\/a> once someone has passed away. There are several ways you can add this to your routine; over time, you may find that this can help ease your mind away from grief and make coping with the loss of a loved one easier.<\/p>\n

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Continuing Past Hobbies<\/h3>\n

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Just because your loved one is no longer here doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t continue enjoying the same hobbies you once shared. Doing so can help reaffirm the relationship between you and your loved one, even when they are gone, making it a little easier to cope with their loss.<\/p>\n

In addition to this, if they had certain favourite items or flowers, buying and looking after these can also help; for example, maintaining a collection of their favourite items can help ease your grief during this difficult period.<\/p>\n

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Visiting Important Locations<\/h3>\n

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Many people have a few important locations that mean a lot to them. Perhaps it\u2019s where you met or somewhere that you used to spend a lot of time together. Whatever the case might be, visiting important locations that you used to share with your loved one can potentially help re-establish a sense of normalcy in your life.<\/p>\n

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Getting a Tattoo<\/h3>\n

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Is there a tattoo design you\u2019ve always dreamed of getting? Perhaps you discussed it with your loved one before they passed, or maybe you\u2019d like to commemorate their life with a memorial tattoo<\/a>. These can help you feel closer to your loved one, making their loss a little less painful to endure.<\/p>\n

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Creating a Craft Piece<\/h3>\n

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Sometimes, putting time into something you\u2019ve made by hand can be one of the simplest yet most effective ways to continue your bond with a loved one. A craft that symbolises their life can allow you time to process their loss while also offering a treasured keepsake that reminds you of their life<\/p>\n

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Talk to Your Loved One<\/h3>\n

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It might feel silly at first, but taking some time in private to talk with your loved one can be a powerful way to process their loss. Even if they can\u2019t reply to you, closing your eyes and telling them about your day can help make things feel a little less raw and hollow.<\/p>\n

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Talk About Them<\/h3>\n

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If you have favourite memories of someone special in your life, sharing these with someone else can help you form a new relationship with your loved one \u2013 one based on remembering them for the amazing person they were. One of the easiest ways to do this is to share special memories with your counsellor or therapist. They, in turn, will be able to learn who your loved one was from your stories and memories of them.<\/p>\n

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What is the best therapy for an unberable grief?<\/p>\n

Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things a person can go through. The pain and grief can be overwhelming, and it can be hard to know how to cope. If you are struggling with traumatic grief after losing a loved one,\u00a0EMDR therapy<\/a>\u00a0may be able to help. EMDR is a relatively new type of therapy that has been shown to be effective in helping people heal from trauma.<\/p>\n

EMDR therapy can also help to increase self-compassion. This is an important skill for anyone who has experienced a loss.<\/p>\n

Self-compassion can help to:<\/p>\n